certainthings | Friends cut

that's my biggest livejournal fear...

And now I'm wondering what my biggest livejournal fear is.

I'd get uber-dramatic and flounce. It's what I do. :D What would YOU do?

Feel like a loser asshole.

I really hate those posts. Cut or don't cut. There is no ass-kissing.

Exactly how I feel! You're either wanting to cut me or you're not. My posting on an entry about it isn't gonna change anything.

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certainthings.livejournal.com - 2011-03-05 05:08 (UTC) - Expand

I usually just cut people without warning because I'm nice that way. Oops. :x

A little warning is nice.

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laurondo.livejournal.com - 2011-03-05 05:14 (UTC) - Expand

That would so suck. Like omg don't anyone LIKE ME!!!!!

I think I'd feel this way as well.

Well, I would keep them all on my flist and torture them with a flood of entries. Yup.

I like this plan.

Well, honestly, I really, really hate those kinds of entries. If a person really wants to do a friends cut, who am I to tell them otherwise? I'm not going to beg to be kept on someone's list. I have more dignity than that. Most of the time when people make those posts I just say to myself, "Well, it was nice knowing them."

I have never done a friends cut. I have journals on my friends list that haven't been updated in years, but they're not hurting anyone by staying there.

There was a time when I would comment but now? Now, I'm all 'Ehh, fuck it.' If they want to keep me they will.

Well, depends on who you cut. When I do a friends cut I usually cut the ones who never update their journal, so I don't think they would even notice.
And the others are people I added once but we don't have anything to say to each other so they don't mind either.
Why should I feel bad if no one comments? Or did I misunderstood your question?

What if people you wanted to stay didn't comment?

LOL. I ignore those kinds of posts because I think well if you're gonna cut me, you're gonna do it anyway and I'm not going to leave you a comment going "ZOMG PLZ DON'T CUT ME...I WILL COMMENT ON EVERY SINGLE POST EVAR" and then you never hear from them again. *kanyeshrug*
So I actually wouldn't feel bad if no one commented because I think a lot of people feel the way I do on the subject of "begging" to be kept on.

There was a time when I did comment but now? Now, I just ignore them.

Personally I'm not a fan of the whole "Friend's Cut" post.

Yeah? I appreciate when people say they're doing a friends cut, just not the "comment to stay" part.

I wouldn't comment. I never do. I don't care if the person is one of my oldest friends. Why should I have to beg to stay their friends?

So very much this.

I'd be so very sad! :*(

I'd be sad as well. Probably annoyed too.

No one would comment on mine, I know. Every time I make a post because people complain that I don't much, I don't get a comment.

People should comment more. :/

It would be shit. I would be mortified and delete it. LOL *co-dependency issues*

this.

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certainthings.livejournal.com - 2011-03-05 03:53 (UTC) - Expand

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goonies-nsd.livejournal.com - 2011-03-14 08:17 (UTC) - Expand

I've done them before, some with comments enabled, and some with it disabled. Cause the ppl who actually reply saying "dont cut me" are never the ppl I'd cut anyways, so it doesn't matter.

There are a few times I've been cut, and I've read that post on that person's LJ beforehand, so at least I'm given a headsup and it's nothing personal. Other times I've been cut sort of randomly and it can hurt. A lot.

I like when people say, 'Hey, I'm doing a friends cut.' because yeah, being cut with no notice is annoying and I agree, hurts. A lot.

I never comment on those sort of posts I just figure if they're gonna cut me go ahead.

Pretty much this.

My direct answer is that I'd have that nasty "ouch" feeling in my chest when I'm let down. The roundabout non-answer: I wouldn't do one of those posts. One, I don't have that many people to cut *looks at self and laughs* and two, I don't have the sort of journal where it matters.

I get having people comment on being added, I do. Something like a hello is nice, but if not, okay. I don't get asking people to ask to stay. *shrugsidk*

I do like it when new folks say hello. I figure when people say they're doing a friends cut they have at least a couple of people in mind that they want to cut, and if they did one of those posts and one of those people commented ... wouldn't that defeat the purpose? Probably.

That would suck. However, if no one gave a shit what I said then I could go all out crazy.

What would be your crazy?

I don't make those posts - I pretty much msg the person(s) I'll be removing and tell them to convince me otherwise :p Though that sounds harsh and mean - I find that it works out well :D Plus _ never really have to do that cause I have amazing friends to begin with <3

Oh, I love that you message people to let them know. That's awesome.

I think those posts come off as a "Kiss my ass and validate your existence" type things. Most probably don't mean it that way but it really feels that way.

I would never do it, I probably wouldn't comment on someone who I saw doing it. If you're gonna cut me, I doubt me coming in and pleading is gonna do any good anyway.

They really sort of do, don't they?

Personally, I wouldn't make that kind of entry. I do occassionally do a friends cut, but I just post that I am making it and the reasons why someone may get cut. I don't ask people if they want to stay. Asking them if they want to stay kinda defeats the purpose of wanting to do the cut to get rid of people. So I am not sure how I'd feel.

I don't care for it when people don't announce friends cuts at all, that can be annoying - especially if you're left wondering if you were the only one cut and went wrong.

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taintedangel80.livejournal.com - 2011-03-05 03:29 (UTC) - Expand

I'd feel like the world's biggest, most stinkiest pile of shit.

I would probably feel that way as well.

Ahahahahaha, you would feel pretty shit. :|

Chances are.

To be honest, I always feel terrified to comment to those posts even if I really really want to stay. I always think "What if THEY don't want me to stay and they're sorry I commented, then it's awkward because they don't want me there but they feel obligated because I commented?" So it's like, if someone makes that kind of post and I don't comment, it isn't because I don't want to stay. It's because I don't want them to keep me because I want to stay--I want them to keep me because they want me to stay.

SO MUCH THIS.

I'd laugh so hard if you deleted me. Then I'd show up at your house and bop your nose.

Oh! So tempted to delete you now.